Start close in, don't take the second step or the third, start with the first thing close in, the step you don't want to take.  -David Whyte

It is difficult to be a dying human in this place and time.  It is almost as hard to be the loving family member or caregiver of a dying person.  It is hard for many reasons, but foremost among them is that we live in a culture where aging and dying are not permitted.  We don't look at them or talk about them and we certainly do not apprentice ourselves to their mysteries.  There is no space in "the way things are" for the truths of aging and dying, and so we find ourselves struggling desperately to look away from what we know is happening.  But it is possible to turn toward this ending, toward the rich depths of not-knowing, and toward all the pain and beauty that adorn it.  

I am dedicated to supporting individuals who are approaching and/or planning for the end of their lives and to empowering the families and organizations that support them.  I work to reduce the likelihood of destructive conflict at the end-of-life by assisting all parties in articulating their deepest concerns and listening deeply.  I am dedicated to embracing diversity of ethnicity, history, and spiritual path, and take care to incorporate, rather than maneuver around, these individual and family dynamics. Please reach out if you would like to schedule a consultation to discern whether working with Asher would be supportive for you and your people.

Wonder is part fascination, part ability to believe in things as they are, part willingness to be confused, even devastated at times, by the epic mysteriousness of ordinary things. -Stephen Jenkinson